I just have to shout it to the rooftops! I said "No." And it felt good!
In my quest to be super mom, I rarely say "No". In fact, I usually say, "Sure. I'll do it (bring it, provide it, pay for it, volunteer for it, etc.)"
Oh, sure, I say no to my kids all of the time. In fact, my first answer is usually no, then I stop... think about it, then sometimes change my answer to a yes or 'what does your daddy say?'.
Sometimes when I am asked to do something that I don't want to do, I sometimes take the passive approach and allow others the opportunity to step up. It doesn't always work out... but I tell myself in the end that if no one offers, I'll step in and help out. It's my little way of helping others say yes some of the time. Wish it worked more.
Some people don't have any problems at all saying no. I am not one of them.
Recently I was asked to do something that I did not want to do. I had no desire to do it! And you know what? I straight up said "No." I was not "No WAY, forget it!" I just politely said, "You know what, that just doesn't work out for me and my family." And you know what? It felt good! Oh, baby, it felt good!
So, my question is... are you a yes'er or a no'er?
I've always had issues on saying 'no'. I think I'm too much of a people pleaser so I never say no! That's probably why I'm always stressed out!!
ReplyDeleteI've always been a "yes man," but in the last couple of years, especially since I had Anja, I've been better about saying no. It helps me to prioritize the BEST things (time with God, time with family) over those things that are still good and that I would like to do but don't really have time for.
ReplyDeleteI'm a yes'er. I just like to keep the peace and feel by always saying yes I don't ruffle any feathers.
ReplyDeleteIt depends - I think I can do both. And I sure know the feeling is good when you say NO and manage to stay polite too.
ReplyDeleteYou know my answer.
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