

I've had a topic rolling around in my head for a few days now. And I have to go about it gently, because honestly, I could step on some toes with this post.
A while back, I posted about the secrets of
"The Organized Mom" an article by Beverly Frank. As I mentioned before, this article described me perfectly and it was nice to know that all my work is not in vain.
There was a nugget of truth in that article that I wanted to touch on today. The author says,
"An organized mom does not let herself get overly stressed, or overwhelmed because she knows when to say no, when to de-stress, and when to take a break."
Let me just say right up front... I was not always this person. I was the person
who wore as many hats as humanly possible. If there was a project to sign up for... I was there. If there was a volunteer opportunity at church, I was the "go-to" gal. If there was a meeting to attend... I was there... and I was there on time! Of course, I was also wife, mom, daughter, sister, friend...
And, I know why I signed up/served/volunteered for so many things and it was because:
- I was lonely.
- I needed to feel important.
- I wanted to volunteer/serve/help.
Notice my priorities here people?
Don't get me wrong, there is something wonderful about meeting and making friends when you volunteer. And, when you are volunteering for a worthy cause, you can't help but feel important and worthwhile. But, honestly, the actual helping/volunteering part... eh? I was more in it for the social aspect of it.
And, because my heart wasn't in the right place... I was miserable. I eventually felt confined. The volunteer position(s) eventually came with more and more responsibilities, which I slowly could not get a grip on anymore and honestly, serving or volunteering was no longer a joy to me.
I recall having a conversation with a friend about how I was miserable in my volunteering role(s) and she told me that my heart wasn't right and that my attitude would change once I got my heart right. So, I stepped away from all things related to volunteering for over a year. I wanted to volunteer with a joyful heart, but in effect, I was serving out of begrudged obligation.
I know I let down the "team" and I certainly felt the emotional effects of it. But, during that year, I was able to refocus on the things that had taken the back-burner... like my family, for one, and I began to realign my priorities once again.
Now, when I'm asked to volunteer and/or serve in any capacity, whether at church or at school, I'm able to draw upon my past experience and make the best volunteering decisions for everyone in my family... including me. And, I serve with a joyful heart! Imagine that?!
I say this to say... Know when to say no. Know when to take a break.
Serve with gladness and a joyful heart. You are not doing anybody any favors when you do not have the right heart or attitude.